When expectations and reality do not match.
We all have our own sets of expectations of the things that come into our lives.
By that I mean expectations of everything. Like when you order a plate of food from a stall you haven't patronised before, you'll definitely have some sort of expectations.
When you meet somebody for the first time, you'll have your own set of expectations too, based on his looks or maybe his actions. Or should I say that is your pre-conceived notions. But whatever the case, we all have our own expectations on how things "should" be.
And what if reality doesnt fit into your expectations? To accept or deny it?
I guess it depends on severity then. How severe is it going to affect your life? Tragically or minor and insignificant.
Sometimes when expectations and reality misalign, do you want to keep holding on to it? Hoping that your persistence will pay off and things will go accordingly to what you've expected? Does that mean that you're an unreasonable person? That you want things to go your way? When does it cross the line when you cross persistence and step into the realm of being selfishly unreasonable?
And who judges that you're wrong? Or correct?
In economics, we assume that each individual is a rational being and will only want what is best for them, considering the utils generated from consuming that particular good or service. so....is being "selfishly unreasonable" being wrong?
Sometimes, on some matters, I occasionally hope that there is a criteria to being absolute wrong or being absolute right.
But instead, as we all know, some things, especially intangible ones, in the society cannot and will not allow itself to be on the continuum where 'being right' and 'being wrong' are on opposite ends.
So then, how do you qualify matters that renders a judgement that placates everybody?
Strangely, we use back this continuum and attempt to place such matters on the continuum.
The proximity of that said matter being closer to "being right" or being closer to "being wrong" then rests on the majority of the society and what "they think". And what "they think" is in turn influenced by societal norms towards such matters.
And so we see illogical decisions being made and unintelligent comments passed without being critically evaluated for its 'sensibility'. For example, how being gay is wrong. Or if a marriage and extra-martial affairs are involved, most people would link it to the male counterpart as the cause of it.
In conclusion....there isnt really any actually. I guess people just want to hear that their action is approved in another voice, that's all. People really want empathy...the more the better. So they can feel that whatever choice they make is very skewered towards 'being right' on the continuum, that's all.
I'm like that sometimes.
We all have our own sets of expectations of the things that come into our lives.
By that I mean expectations of everything. Like when you order a plate of food from a stall you haven't patronised before, you'll definitely have some sort of expectations.
When you meet somebody for the first time, you'll have your own set of expectations too, based on his looks or maybe his actions. Or should I say that is your pre-conceived notions. But whatever the case, we all have our own expectations on how things "should" be.
And what if reality doesnt fit into your expectations? To accept or deny it?
I guess it depends on severity then. How severe is it going to affect your life? Tragically or minor and insignificant.
Sometimes when expectations and reality misalign, do you want to keep holding on to it? Hoping that your persistence will pay off and things will go accordingly to what you've expected? Does that mean that you're an unreasonable person? That you want things to go your way? When does it cross the line when you cross persistence and step into the realm of being selfishly unreasonable?
And who judges that you're wrong? Or correct?
In economics, we assume that each individual is a rational being and will only want what is best for them, considering the utils generated from consuming that particular good or service. so....is being "selfishly unreasonable" being wrong?
Sometimes, on some matters, I occasionally hope that there is a criteria to being absolute wrong or being absolute right.
But instead, as we all know, some things, especially intangible ones, in the society cannot and will not allow itself to be on the continuum where 'being right' and 'being wrong' are on opposite ends.
So then, how do you qualify matters that renders a judgement that placates everybody?
Strangely, we use back this continuum and attempt to place such matters on the continuum.
The proximity of that said matter being closer to "being right" or being closer to "being wrong" then rests on the majority of the society and what "they think". And what "they think" is in turn influenced by societal norms towards such matters.
And so we see illogical decisions being made and unintelligent comments passed without being critically evaluated for its 'sensibility'. For example, how being gay is wrong. Or if a marriage and extra-martial affairs are involved, most people would link it to the male counterpart as the cause of it.
In conclusion....there isnt really any actually. I guess people just want to hear that their action is approved in another voice, that's all. People really want empathy...the more the better. So they can feel that whatever choice they make is very skewered towards 'being right' on the continuum, that's all.
I'm like that sometimes.