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朋友比情人更死心塌地

朋友比情人更死心塌地

I had a sudden revelation on my way home yesterday.


About best friends and bossom buddies.


A best guy mate is like having a boyfriend 24/7 on call, not omni-present, but always around the corner, a phone call away.
Never cheats on you, never feels that you are not putting enough into the relationship.
Complains about you, but only to forgive you the very next moment.
Cajoles you every time, doesnt matter if you werent feeling down, he just does it.
Tells you things that probably isnt very nice to hear, but its the truth anyway.
Is still your best guy mate even after you ignore him for a while.




A best girl mate is also like having a girlfriend 24/7 on call.
Dedicates her time solely to you when you are out together.
Always stands on your side.
Makes up for the lack of detail you have when getting something for someone else.
Provides in-depth analyst on things that you probably are not very keen in knowing, but relieved to find out.



They dont ask much in return, they dont care if you are geeky, nerdy or has a fetish for high waisted pants. All they want is your 真心对待。


Here comes the "Catch-22" of it all, if it even falls in that category.
What if you didnt want to become the best mate?
Not to be the person they call for consolation after all his/her relationships fail, but to be the next person in their relationship? ( I am not referring to friend XXX, its just a thought that led off from friend XXX )


So you are the best mate but you want something more for yourself, at the same time you are afraid that you might jeopardize your friendship, something that the both of you have painstakingly built over the years.



To be the best mate for life or not to be?


All these while I was relatively sober. Am I smart or what?

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